The Fellowship of the Worms and a Giveaway

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One of the most unexpected parts of blogging is connecting to the wide world of other bloggers.  Over the 2012 Labor Day weekend, I was bored (and hot) and posted a month’s worth of opinions on books I’d read.  It was a self-indulgent whim that turned into a monthly feature.  The book review posts seem to get the most hits and comments.  And through those posts I found a bunch of bloggers whose raison d’etre is books…reading, reviewing, discussing.  So much awesome.

Words for Worms is a fun place to read about reading.  She’s introduced me to a number of books currently on my To Be Read list that  I never would’ve chosen for myself.  She’s also got an online book club called The Fellowship of the Worms.

I love this idea!  Years ago, I was part of a book club of local moms.  We met while the kids were in school (this was before my kids started homeschooling).  It was a hoot and we read books that I would not have picked if left to my own devices (The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold, Outlander by Diana Gabaldon.  BTW, try discussing that book without blushing…).  Unfortunately, all the other moms were Catholic and I was not, so we had a massive disagreement over The Da Vinci Code that kinda made book club not so much fun for me anymore.

But The Fellowship of the Worms is internet-based and by definition more diverse than my old mommy book club, so I’m looking forward to a lively discussion with penetrating insights and lots of humor.  The July book is The Thirteenth Tale by Diane Setterfield, which was unavailable at the library or PaperBackSwap.  I was able to get a bargain priced copy from Amazon for less than $7, so that made me happy.  Then I found a copy at my favorite Goodwill bookstore.  You know what that means?

Giveaway!

 

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Cover to the first edition (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Leave a comment for a chance to win a copy of The Thirteenth Tale.  Giveaway closes Sunday, June 23 at midnight PDT.  Sometime Monday morning, I’ll use Random.org to pick a winner.  I hope to get the copy mailed out in plenty of time for the winner to participate in the Fellowship discussion.

If you’d like to participate in the book club, click here for more details.  Then come back on July 8th when the discussion questions are posted and link up.

June Books, Part 1

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It’s June and the summer TV is terrible.  I’d rather read a cereal box than watch most of that people trapped in a house/traipsing through the wilderness/pretending to be superheroes competition nonsense.  I’ve already read so many books that I realized I’d better split my monthly round-up into parts or we’d be here ’til August.  And hey, bonus, not only are these books better than TV, they were all actually pretty good reads.

Have Your Cake and Spinach, Too:  Dessert Flavored Green Smoothies for Health and Weight Loss by Lisa Arends (99 cent kindle edition)  I was both hopeful and skeptical about this one.  How good could a green smoothie really taste?  Pretty damn good, it turns out.

Heads up:  Read all the introductory information, don’t just skip to the recipes willy-nilly.  (Guess how I figured that out?)  Lisa does an excellent job of explaining the ingredients and process.  She explains how to layer the ingredients so your blender doesn’t jam up on the frozen fruit.  That’s especially helpful for those of us with a regular blender (as opposed to a high-powered Vitamix).  She also goes into detail on amounts of liquid and greens, so take my word and read the intro.

Smoothies are pretty forgiving and easy to personalize, but since I’m a newbie, I took Lisa’s advice and used baby spinach as the greens.  Spinach is mild and the taste virtually disappears into the smoothie.  Lisa also explains how to make the smoothies vegan and gluten free, which is a nice bonus for those who need that information.

I’ve tried about 10 of the recipes so far and they were all yummy.  But it’s really disconcerting to see the green color while tasting the sweetness.  Makes my brain skip a beat.  This is a perfect book for summer with the coming hot days and bounty of fresh fruits.  Highly recommend.

Blood on the Bayou by Stacey Jay (Amazon)  #2 in a series (Dead on the Delta was the first).  I liked #1 so much, I overpaid to get #2.  It was only available as a $20 trade paperback on Amazon.  Further adventures in Louisiana with blood-sucking fairies, invisible people who could be good or could be evil, and a government that apparently doesn’t have our best interests at heart.  Ms. Jay is going to be able to write this series for a decade given the number of twists and turns she created.  And I’m beginning to think we’d better not get too attached to the cat…

I wasn’t wild about the various romantic contortions, break-ups, and make-ups.  The men in this book are screwed up.  The heroine is also screwed up, but she at least seems self-aware and knows she’s a mess.  Other than that, I really enjoyed the creepy fairies and pixies.  Recommend.

Jackrabbit Junction Jitters by Ann Charles (kindle freebie)  #2 in a series.  Back to Jackrabbit Junction, AZ for a wedding and more mystery.  Additional characters add more humor, but the goofy “rocky” romance angle was off-putting.  The darkness of the crimes and motive took me by surprise because of the overall lightness of the novel.  The bad guy(s) are clearly bad even before you know why.  Another fun read.

Knock ‘Em Dead (#2 in the Finley Anderson Tanner series) by Rhonda Pollero (paperbackswap.com)  Mystery with a large dose of romance.  It takes the whole book full of breadcrumbs (croutons, really) to find out what’s up with her pilot/perfect boyfriend.  I knew he was skeevy!  There’s definitely a pattern with these books:  there’s always a love triangle; Finley totals her leased luxury car; and she gets suspended or fired from her job.  Even so, it’s more fun than I thought it would be.

This mystery is pretty grisly, a stabbing plus genital mutilation.  (The word “penis” is thrown around a lot.  You’ve been warned.)  The villain and motive turn out to be kinda ho-hum considering the ugh factor of the murder.  It was a fast, engrossing read.

Fat Chance (#3 in the Finley Anderson Tanner series) by Rhonda Pollero (paperbackswap.com)  I know, ok?   Finley’s a fashionista Stephanie Plum, but I really like her.  Her mom’s a nightmare and this book delves a bit into her childhood.  There’s (another) romantic triangle, (another) leased luxury car is totaled, and the villain/plot twist is obvious mid-way through.  Still thought it was lots of fun and look forward to the next installment…totalled car, crazy love triangles, and all.

Nightwalker by Allyson James (Amazon)  Urban fantasy, #4 in the Janet Begay series.  I loved the first three books and I actually thought it was just a trilogy because everything was wrapped up at the end of the third book.  This series is set primarily in Arizona, but roams throughout the desert Southwest and centers on a magical Navajo woman.  Native American mythology provides most of the magic, but there are vampires, shifters, and dragons…oh my!  There’s a heavy dose of romance and explicit sex, so don’t leave it laying around for curious kids to pick up accidentally.

I like the characters and mythology in this book, but it lacked depth.  There seemed to be a lot of repetitive action that didn’t end up amounting to much.  Don’t try to read the series out of order, especially since the first three books were better.

Dark Roots and Cowboy Boots by Luann McClane (99 cents at Goodwill, baby)  Light, breezy contemporary romance that I picked up solely because the title made me laugh.

No Place Like Home (A Camilla Randall Mystery) by Anne R. Allen (kindle freebie)  Despite a heavy-handed, self-righteous introduction by the author, this was a remarkably good book.  The characters are varied, several are redeemed through their experiences; the bad guys get their comeuppance; and the seemingly worthless are heroic.  Parts of the mystery are shop-worn, but I found the characters’ charm overcame that.

Set in San Luis Obispo wine country, with a well layered haves versus have-nots theme.  The lead character (Camilla) came from a lot of money, but has next to nothing now.  She works in a small independent bookstore that’s on the verge of bankruptcy because of e-reader devices, so there’s a dig or two about that, which is pretty funny considering that I got this book as a kindle freebie.  There are a number of very convenient plot twists, but overall this was a gem of a freebie.

Carrots (A Shelby Nichols Adventure) by Colleen Helme (kindle freebie)  Suburban mom runs to the grocery store and ends up with telepathic powers (who hasn’t had that happen?  And always when you’re running late.)  Very soon, Shelby is enmeshed with an organized crime mob while worrying about a new young female employee at her husband’s law firm.  Light and silly, but entertaining.

Remix by Lexi Revellian (kindle freebie)  British contemporary fiction about an old murder and a resurrected rock star.  Doesn’t fit in one particular category.  There’s a mystery and some romance, but the story is ultimately about redemption and change.  Really enjoyed the story and characters, but the climax is over-the-top for such restrained Brit Lit.

Death Will Get You Sober (#1 in Bruce Kohler series) by Elizabeth Zelvin (kindle freebie)  A gritty novel that opens in a low-end detox facility on the Bowery of NYC and follows Bruce through his latest attempt at sobriety.  This is a down and dirty view of alcoholism and recovery.  It’s extremely well written with dead-on accuracy and lots of recovery language.  AA meetings figure prominently in the action.  In the midst of this, there are a whole bunch of murders.  Bruce and his friends end up playing amateur detectives and solving the crimes.  My only complaint is that the climax with the villain and motive were completely out of left field.  Otherwise, it was a great mystery with realistic characters and relationships.  Loved it.

Favorite lines:

“My sponsor was right.  If the stakes are high enough, anyone can learn to pray.”

“A codependent was someone who would literally rather die than make a scene.”

This book gets my highest praise:  I’d pay full price for it.  (But you can also borrow it for free from the Kindle Owner’s Lending Library.)

Death Will Help You Leave Him (#2 in Bruce Kohler series) by Elizabeth Zelvin (borrowed from the Kindle Owner’s Lending Library)  I was prepared to buy this because I loved #1 so much, but it was available free so I snatched it up.  It wasn’t as good as the first book.  In this installment, we were walking or catching a bus or subway all over Manhattan without ever really moving forward.  The lead characters spent most of their time sleuthing or at AA/Al-Anon meetings.  What happened to their jobs?  How are they paying their NYC rent?

There was what could’ve been a great subplot about Bruce’s codependent relationship with his ex-wife, but instead, it was cartoonish and brutally ended.  (I might have a particular sensitivity about this.)  The author didn’t seem to like or understand codependents as well as she does recovering alcoholics and addicts.

Favorite line:  “‘No’ is a complete sentence.”

The murderer was the only character I figured could’ve done the deed, although I had no idea of motive.  The answer was unsatisfying and the subsequent attempted murder was completely daft.

I enjoyed the book, but maybe should’ve waited longer to read it.  Perhaps my expectations were too high after the first installment.

I’ve got stacks and stacks of books and bytes left to get me through the summer.  I love that!  What are you looking forward to in the next few months?

13 Going On 30

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Today is kid #3′s 13th birthday.  And yes, I can still remember the day she was born, unexpectedly quickly, which led to an accidental natural birth.  Frankly, I was glad just to get to the hospital.

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She was a little princess.  She wore dresses and leggings in a rainbow of pinks and pastels for the first 10 years of her life.  She named everything from stuffed animals to Star Wars action figures to the minivan “Cindy.”  She was our last baby and she was spoiled.  Everything I’ve ever read about the youngest child was true about #3.  I made all those “youngest child” mistakes and I don’t regret any of them.  She was my last baby and I knew it.

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She’s morphed in the past couple of years from a princess to a perky goth.  Now she wears dark clothes mostly, and she’s graduated to jeans.  She’s internalized the societal expectations for girls about body image, despite my assurances that health and strength are far more important than stick-thinness.  I still fight the good fight and she’s got a good head on her shoulders, so there’s hope.  She’s had to deal with a lot in the past 18 months and has developed a maturity and grace that are astonishing.  She’s also got a smart mouth and surly attitude that she flings about with deadly accuracy.  She’s venturing into her own territory and discovering who she is beyond the porch light of our family.

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She’s unstoppable when interested, spending hours a day practicing piano music from her favorite video games.  She picks out the melodies by ear, or by watching You Tube videos.  She can completely ignore things she’s bored by, like practicing “When The Saints Go Marching In” assigned by her piano teacher or long division.

There are still some glimmers of who she was in who she is becoming.  Halloween remains her favorite holiday.  Pokemon are still beloved.  Reading is still cool.  And she’s still the baby of our family.

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Happy Birthday!

Reader Retirement

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I was so excited a couple of years ago to discover Google Reader.  I followed a blog that even published a tutorial on how to use it.  Up ’til then I would subscribe to blogs via email (which led to a bloated email inbox that was daunting to open) or I’d bookmark the blogs I liked and then click back over periodically to check for new posts.  Inevitably, I’d forget a blog I liked and lose track.

But Google Reader let me subscribe to dozens of blogs in just a couple of clicks.  The interface was simple and I could choose which posts I felt like reading at any given time.  I got hooked.  And now those Googlejerks are retiring the Reader.  I know, I know, they announced it months ago, but I chose to ignore the impending change.  Now July 1st looms and I haven’t found a new reader for my blog feeds.

I have some blogs that I follow in the WordPress Reader, but I hate it.  Every post just gets added by date/time of publishing (instead of logged in to a table of contents as on Google).  D’ya know how many posts I’ve missed because they got buried in that mess?  I’m reluctant to import all my Google Reader blogs to WordPress when I can’t keep the WordPress Reader straight as it is.

Kid #2 showed me Comma-something which she claims is a mirror for Google Reader.  But it’s not.  It pulled over all sorts of previously read posts along with the unread ones.  I looked at Feedly, and realized that I was still clinging to the hope that Google would stop this madness.  I don’t want to change readers.  I don’t want to learn a new system and routine.  I like the old way.

I think Google really means it.  They’re going to retire the Reader and I have to find a way to accept it and move on.  Maybe I’ll even find something I like better, something that’s an even more intuitive fit.  Is there a Match.com for aggregators?

May Reading…Or Stop Me Before I Buy Any More Books

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May is a big month for me.  It’s got Mother’s Day and my birthday.  I love the homemade cards my kids still give me on Mother’s Day and the Amazon gift cards I receive for my birthday.  Amazon gift cards = guilt-free books!  I also wandered into the Goodwill bookstore this month and discovered a huge rack of 99 cent paperbacks.  I got a whole (reusable) sack full for about $25.  Yep, a couple dozen more books, in addition to six from Amazon and God knows how many kindle freebies.  Apparently, I’m addicted not only handbags, but also books.  Look, at least I don’t have bugs or rodents (teenagers don’t count) and my house in no way resembles an episode of “Hoarders: Buried Alive.”  Yet.  Here we go with my unsolicited opinion of my reading material:

 

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Knock-Off (A Finley Anderson Tanner Mystery) by Rhonda Pollero (99 cents at Goodwill)  I was a bit put off by the shallow, snarky Finley at first.  I don’t know if she mellowed as the story progressed, or if I grew accustomed to her, but I ended up loving this book.  The mystery was twisty and the cast of characters was fun and well-developed.  Definitely a mix of mystery and romance.  There’s something skeevy about Finley’s pilot/perfect boyfriend.  He made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up.  I’d keep an eye on him if I were Finley.  But maybe I just like the bad-boy PI better.  An all-around fun romp.  Recommend.

 

Dead on the Delta by Stacey Jay (PaperBackSwap.com)  Urban fantasy.  A dark, twisty and twisted tale of mutant fairies in Louisiana.  The heroine, Annabelle, is a self-loathing, self-medicating slacker, but  she’s got depth and potential.  The plot involves a grisly child murder, a drug operation, and a town with undercurrents of corruption.  I twigged to the murderer halfway through, but the motive took me completely by surprise.  This is a dark tale; I ended up loving it.  The lead characters were believable even in an unbelievable dystopic, blood-sucking fairy world.  I was engaged all the way to the ending (which creeped me out).  Looking forward to the next installment.

 

Dance of the Winnebagos (Jackrabbit Junction Mystery #1) by Ann Charles  (free from the Kindle Owners Lending Library)  A hoot.  Kinda Carl Hiaasen-lite.  And set in Arizona instead of Florida.  The author lets you know whodunnit early on, so it’s more a matter of whether the good guys figure it out in time.  There’s a wide streak of romance in the middle of the mystery, but it’s cute so I didn’t mind.  The horny senior citizens got old (haha) after awhile, but overall, a fun read.

 

The Cat, The Wife and The Weapon by Leann Sweeney (Goodwill find)  Cozy mystery with four cats and a dog as side characters.  Part of a series, but stands alone.  For a light mystery, the crimes were surprisingly gruesome and the villain especially awful.  Great reading for cat lovers.

 

Buzz Off (A Queen Bee Mystery) by Hannah Reed (Goodwill, again)  Another cozy mystery centering around a small-town grocer with a bee-keeping hobby.  The mystery is pretty lightweight, the characters are well-developed.  I learned a lot about bees, which was an unexpected bonus.  Great light reading.

 

Can’t Never Tell (A Southern Fried Mystery) by Cathy Pickens (another Goodwill find)  Cozy mystery with a slow start, starring a big city corporate lawyer who returns to her small hometown (I don’t know why, that’s apparently explained in a previous book.  Didn’t matter to the plot or my enjoyment, though).  Light read with comfortably fallible characters.  The mystery involves a murder and financial fraud for which I would’ve appreciated a bit more explanation.  Another good weekend read.

 

Peril in Paperback (A Bibliophile Mystery) by Kate Carlisle (yep, Goodwill)  Looks to be about #6 in a series starring a book restorer with a habit of stumbling upon and solving murders.  I haven’t read the previous books, but the author was careful to describe various character relationships, so it stood alone.  The plot is a wacky, modern-day English house party in Northern California.  The cast of characters runs the gamut from normal to nutty.  The twists are soap opera worthy:  there’s not one, but two secret children; two corpses; and one corporate thief.  The charm of some characters felt forced and the weird house annoyed me.  Fun, but frustrating.

 

Survive a Catastrophe in Suburbia Without Firearms by William West and B. Lee Rowell (kindle freebie)  I’m in suburbia, I don’t have a firearm, and catastrophe could strike at any moment, so I felt obliged to read this book.  First, a grammar geek alert:  these authors need a lesson on plural versus possessive forms and the difference (yes, there is one) between there, they’re, and their.  Drove me nuts.

 

The main concern for these guys was a massive power outage due to large solar flares.  I’d never thought of that, so thanks for giving me something new to worry about.  I don’t know if solar flares are really something to freak out over, but this is an excellent guide for sheltering in place.  Practical (for the most part, I’m not sold on the 1,000 gallon water drums in the backyard idea) and humorous, the authors reminded me of my dad.  Recommend.

 

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Afterlight (The Dark Ink Chronicle #1) by Elle Jasper  I waited two years for this book on my PaperBackSwap.com wish list.  It’s a slightly different vampire tale set in Savannah, Georgia.  I enjoyed the atmosphere of the city and the main character, but the plot was well-worn.  I have the second book of the series, but lack the motivation or interest to read it.  Just ok.

 

Minimalist Wardrobe:  How to Streamline, Simplify, and Organize Your Closet by Kerry Gene (kindle freebie)  More magazine article than book, this provides a very basic foundation for paring down your wardrobe.  I’d have liked more details and photos of making pieces work together as outfits.  I was aghast at the author’s suggestion of a spreadsheet to track and organize one’s clothing.  What happened to minimalist?

 

Vitamin Water by Arnel Ricafranca (kindle freebie)  A very short book with a couple dozen ways to flavor water with fruits and vegetables (to call them recipes is silly).  It gave me some ideas for new flavor combinations, but wait for it to be free if you’re interested.

 

Murder of the Cat’s Meow by Denise Swanson (Goodwill, thankfully)  #15 of a series, but I’ve never read the others and I followed along fine.  The dialogue was stilted and the author did more telling than showing.  A good poolside read if you’re supposed to be watching kids:  you won’t mind being interrupted.  I did appreciate that the author made a disclaimer at the very start that no cats are hurt in the book.

 

I’m all set for summer reading.  Clearly.  The book I’m most looking forward to reading next is Lisa Arends new healthy cookbook, Have Your Cake and Spinach Too:  Dessert Flavored Green Smoothies for Health and Weight Loss.  Normally I’m leery of kindle cookbooks, but she takes care to get the formatting right and I love her blog (Lessons From The End of A Marriage), she talks about her (extremely good) health and fitness in addition to what she’s learned from marriage and divorce, so I can’t wait to try her recipes.  We’ll see if green smoothies can really taste like dessert!  And it’s only 99 cents for the kindle version.

 

What are you most looking forward to reading this summer?  Do tell in the comments.

 

Jonathan Livingston Hawk

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Our yard is a bed-and-breakfast for all sorts of wildlife.  Rabbits, little brown birds I’ve dubbed sparrows, the occasional outdoor cat on the prowl.  I’ve never seen a coyote in our yard, but they march down the street, evenings and nights, like they’re leading a Mardi Gras parade.

 

In a preemptive move to keep the birds from eating our (potential) garden bounty, I decided to put up a bird feeder.  Plus, I like birds, so it was an appealing idea all around.  Since the vegetable garden is in the backyard, my brilliant fake-out was to put the bird feeder on the porch in the front yard.  Then I added a hanging  bird water bowl, which has been mostly ignored.  The added bonus was hours of safe, if frustrating, cat entertainment as Anna and Clementine can watch the birds from our front window.

 

Within a few hours of hanging the feeder, the porch was swarmed with birds, including a couple of rival swallow gangs from the sound of their pissed off chirping.  And they’re messy little buggers; bird seed absolutely covers the porch now.  Which attracts bigger birds.  A few days ago, a dove divebombed the feeder only to pull up short and land on a porch post.  Then it swooped down and pecked at the spilled seed.

 

Today I was sitting on the couch reading when a large flying object barreling toward the house caught my eye.  I did a double-take, because (holy crap) it was a young hawk.  Jonathan Livingston Hawk tried to land on the swallow-sized feeder, failed, and ended up in the rosemary bush below.  S/He didn’t peck at the spilled seed, but rather lurked in the bush and then flew over to a tree in the front yard.  J.L. Hawk kept coming back over to the porch and the bush for two hours, when it finally dawned on me that s/he wasn’t interested in the seeds, s/he was hunting swallows.  Fortunately, being a young (and let’s face it, fairly dim-witted) hawk, s/he didn’t catch any prey in my front yard.  S/He left hungry, since bird seed wasn’t to her/his liking.

 

But, wowser!  A hawk right on my front porch.  It was so cool.  And my dingbat cats and kids missed the entire show.

 

 

 

Shine On, Baby

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Awhile back, GirrlEarth nominated me for The Shine On blog award.  I got caught up in all the busyness at the end of the school year, plus birthdays, plus kid #2′s high school graduation, plus, plus, plus.

And I felt ungracious for not responding to the award right away which led to guilt and shame (unwelcome houseguests, those two).  So I procrastinated some more.  Mea culpa, GirrlEarth.  I really do appreciate your thoughtfulness and I get a big kick out of blog awards, since I’m just pecking away at a keyboard hoping I don’t sound like a complete a**hat.

So I’ll tell you the rules for this award, then I’m going to break them.  ‘Cuz I’m a rebel like that.

Rules for accepting the award:

  • Link back to the person (or people) who nominated you.  (Check.)
  • Add the award logo to your blog.  (Check.)
  • Share seven things about yourself.  (Hmmm, really?)
  • Nominate 10 – 15 bloggers, and link to them, and tell them about their nomination.  (Probably not gonna happen.)

Weird, but true things about me:

I’m the one who always returns her shopping cart to the corral in the store parking lot.  Drives me bat sh*t crazy when people leave them to roam free-range all over the place, drunkenly banging into cars and passing out in parking spaces.

I have absolutely no idea how to choose a good/ripe pineapple.  I should ask someone to explain it to me.  Anyone?

Our tomato plants have become seedlings and a gardener friend sternly told me that now I have to thin them.  What?  I have to decide which ones live and which ones don’t?  Apparently, we planted far, far too many seeds.  Thinning tomato seedlings is causing me existential angst.

On the other hand, we didn’t plant enough carrot seeds.  Didn’t think this one through at all:  one seed=one plant=one carrot.  Latest count is three carrot seedlings.  Sigh.

According to kid #3 I speak to pets and small children in exactly the same tone of voice.  And it’s creepy.  Damn kid’s probably right.

I’ve never seen the movie “Titanic.”

Fabulous bloggers who deserve as many hugs and awards as the internet can throw their way:

Looking Forward 2012:  Divorced and remarried mom documenting her ongoing custody and parenting struggles.  I’m amazed at her ability to stay calm and rational in the face of her ex’s absolute insanity.

Passive Aggressive Abuse:  She’s struggling with the decision to stay or leave her husband.  A lot of really helpful links on passive aggressive men and how to deal with them.  I appreciate her honesty and strength.

Trans*Forming Family:  A mom blogging about her trans*son’s transition with honesty and love.  I’m inspired by her unwavering love for her children.

JamesClaims:  He blogs about his depression/bipolar condition with unflinching honesty.  I’ve received insight into what his mental illness feels like from the inside.

I Miss You When I Blink:  Trust her to find the funny and the meaningful in everyday crap.  Bonus:  lots of brilliant compound curse words.

Maybe one of these blogs will give you food for thought, too.  Try ‘em and see!

Loose Ends

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Or updates that don’t warrant their own posts but come with photos:

*The cats aren’t embracing their new healthy lifestyle.  Well, Clementine is fine, but Anna keeps gaining weight.  I half expect her to simply explode.  She’s sneaky, she wolfs down her food and then, when my back is turned, she dives face first into Clementine’s bowl.  Also, she steals kid #3′s goldfish crackers.  Is there an Overeaters Anonymous for felines?  Here’s Anna:

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*I never did figure out how to post a photo in the comments, so here’s The Handbag:

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*Kid #1 drives all over creation, safely and within the speed limit.  He’s completely transportation-independent.  Take heart, moms, it can be done.

*I have no regrets about trading in the minivan for a fuel efficient sedan.  Of course, I haven’t had to load up the cats for a trip to the vet or groomer yet, but my gas expense has been reduced by 60%.

*The lettuce, tomato and carrot seeds we planted are already starting to grow.  See?

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*My friend, Lovely L, ended up confronting the Other Woman and lived to regret it.  Boy, does she regret it.  I never did and I still don’t regret it.

*I went thrift shopping again and found this great dress.

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It’s a floaty chiffon number that I think will be perfect for my nephew’s beach wedding this summer.  And it  was less than $7, so score!  I also bought a Coach turnkey wallet with checkbook for 90% off retail and a brand new, sealed board game that retails for $27 ($3 at the thrift shop).  I’m a complete convert to secondhand shopping.

*I was pissed off by the juxtaposition of two stories on Good Morning America recently.  Here’s Ben Affleck’s Huffington Post piece in which he deftly turns the 1% argument around.  Well done and humble.

*Kid #2 is stable and recovering.  I’m profoundly grateful.

*I’ve never heard from CPS again.  I hope to continue to never hear from CPS in the future.

*I’ve tried all sorts of new things this year and picked up old things that I used to enjoy.  I still go to kickboxing class once a week (kid schedules prevent twice a week attendance); I started going to two weekly yoga classes; I attended a divorce recovery group; I’ve met loads of new people and made some friends; I’m even seriously considering a return to vegetarianism.  I’m letting myself just be me without any concern for what anyone else thinks about my choices.

I feel more like myself now than at any time in the past five years.  I’d gotten so used to being miserable that I almost didn’t notice it anymore.  That’s a lousy place to live.  But passing through has made me more grateful for where I am and where I can go.  It’s a journey worth taking.

 

April Reading

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Stack Of Books

Stack Of Books (Photo credit: indi.ca)

I read a baker’s dozen books this month, and the best were non-fiction.  Since we started our vegetable seeds in early April, I read a lot of books on gardening.  The seeds are sprouting, so maybe they helped!

Just What I Needed

What A Tomato: Growing Tomatoes My Way by Farm Girl (kindle freebie)  Straightforward, well-written short on growing tomatoes.  The directions were explicit, and the photos helpful.

Grow Great Grub by Gayla Trail (paperback recommended by blogging friend Girrl Earth)  Beautifully photographed, well-written guide to growing just about anything edible.  I loved her reuse of materials and advice for both frugal and small space alternatives.  Bonus:  recipes and prep advice included.  Highly recommend.

The Sustainable Living Book for Beginners by Frank Randall (kindle freebie)  An excellent overview of sustainable living practices including gardening, waste management, and energy sources as well as the benefits of minimalism, voluntary simplicity, and frugality on sustainability and self-sufficiency.  The author did an especially good job of encouraging parents to involve kids in the process.  Great starting place.

The Beautiful Home:  Decorating Ideas on a Budget for Your Dream Home by Michelle Stewart (kindle freebie)  A good mix of practical tips and introspective advice (understanding your environmental stress triggers).

Pink Balloons and Other Deadly Things (Carrie Carlin Mystery Series #1) by Nancy Tesler (kindle freebie)  A quick murder mystery starring a divorcing mom and her philandering ex.  I really liked Carrie and didn’t mind the bit of romance mixed in.  Figured out whodunit PDQ, though.

Just OK

Trouble in Mudbug (Ghost-In-Law Mystery) by Jana DeLeon (kindle freebie)  A well-written mystery with likeable characters in a fun location.  Unfortunately, the mystery had a completely unfair twist and there’s a huge dose of shallow romance.  The ghost-in-law part of the title refers to the heroine’s dead mother-in-law’s ghost (can you imagine?!?) — if that’s not terrifying, I don’t know what is.  Fun for free.

The Five Rings of Minimalism by Karol Gajda (kindle freebie)  The first half of this is fantastic.  It has practical, useful information delivered without preaching.  The introductory chapters have lots of discussion of needs versus wants, and advice on letting go of excess.  The first “ring” is health, which the author contends is easily and cheaply supported by drinking water, exercising daily, and eating a plant-based diet (veganism).  I’m a lapsed vegetarian, and I appreciated his pragmatic, rational presentation of veganism.

The second half of the book fell apart.  The author seemed to run out of enthusiasm and the concepts aren’t complicated, so he repeats himself a lot.  I think the construct of samurai philosophy was a nifty hook that petered out.

Favorite quote:  “We get to write our own story.  It’s a blank canvas and we have control over most aspects of it.”

Death by Cuddle Club (A Dix Dodd Mystery #3) by Heather Doherty and Norah Wilson ($2.99 kindle edition)  Better than #2, not as good as #1.  For most of this installment, Dix is as immature as she was in #2.  But toward the end she got back to the smart PI of #1.  What a relief.  Fair warning, though, it’s a long slog to that point.

The premise of this mystery is just bizarre.  Someone is killing members of a “cuddle club.”  What’s a cuddle club?  A place where people pay what we’re repeatedly told is an outrageous sum of money to cuddle with strangers.  No sex, just cuddling.  If you can get past the weirdness (good luck), the mystery is pretty good.

Not terrible, but wait until it’s free.

Touch of the Demon by Diana Rowland (paperback)  This third book in the Kara Gillian series takes a turn for the seriously twisted.  Clearly, the series is headed away from woo-woo police procedural into dark fantasy.  Engrossing and gory.  Ends on a cliffhanger, again, which has gotten old.  Very few questions from previous books were answered, but a bunch of new ones were raised.  Don’t read this series out of order.

Twice Tempted (A Night Prince Novel) by Jeaniene Frost (paperback)  This is the second book of the second spin-off of the Night Huntress series.  It’s a paranormal romance focusing on vampires.

I like the female protagonist, but the vamp (Vlad, the original Dracula) ran too hot and cold for me.  The ongoing conflict and villain were a stretch.  For fans of the series only.

Just No

No Turning Back (The Kathleen Turner Series) by Tiffany Snow (kindle owner’s lending library)  Far more of a romance than a mystery, which was a shame because the mystery was very topical (electronic voting fraud).  The heroine, Kathleen, was a Mary Sue — a too-stupid-to-live character.  Fortunately for her, she’s pretty and surrounded by handsome, macho guys willing to get her out of trouble.  Aggravating and not my cup of tea.  In the end, the mystery wasn’t even definitively solved.

Smart Gardening:  How to Grow Your Best Vegetable Garden (Gardening Essentials Series) by Keith Parker (kindle freebie)  Marred by bizarre syntax and lack of clarity.

Dieting the Santa Barbara Way:  A Simple and Easy Diet for Health, Happiness and Weight Loss by Jennifer Eickemeyer (kindle freebie)  The “Santa Barbara” diet is veganism on 1,000-1,200 calories per day.  Nothing groundbreaking.  The recipes are fairly complex, and they supposedly serve just one person.  So if you’re a patient, single vegan, this cookbook may serve you well.  Questionable usefulness for families with (picky) kids.

My kindle is stuffed so full that I’ve become paralyzed to make a choice on what to read next.  Any suggestions?

Mixed Messages

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As I was getting ready this morning, I had the TV tuned to Good Morning America in my bedroom.  Mostly, I wanted to know how long it would take for the local weather to warm up to 70 degrees today.  In the space of 30 minutes, I heard two stories, which when taken together, made my head hurt.

The first was about a new, revolutionary exercise that helped Kelly Osborne drop five pounds and whittle two inches off her waist in a week.  The name Hoopnotica and the description of the round hoops made me peer around the doorway to see.  Yep, hula hoops are now a “revolution.”  The head revolutionary runs an exercise studio, in Malibu, natch.  I was unsuccessful in my google search for a cost on this activity.  My best guess, based on other exercise classes, is $10-20 per class.

A few minutes later, the story was about Ben Affleck, reportedly worth upwards of $65 million, and his weeklong commitment to living on $1.50 worth of food per day.  This is to bring attention to Hugh Jackman’s charity, Live Below The Line, referring to the global extreme poverty line.  The challenge is meant to draw attention to the 1.4 billion people who live on less than $1.50 of food daily.*  It was interesting that the “rules” of this challenge state you can drink unlimited tap water, since 780 million people have limited or no access to clean drinking water. (source)

What struck me as completely ridiculous was the promotion of an exercise method which should be cheap and easy but in fact costs at least one week’s worth of food per the global poverty numbers.  It was cynical of GMA to not only run these stories on the same day, but so close together.  In one breath, GMA promotes excessive material consumption, in the next, they’re spreading guilt thicker than peanut butter, which a billion people can’t afford.

Is it any wonder we’re confused, scattered, and frustrated?

 

*I think this is an admirable cause  and have participated in Food Stamp Challenges, but never one that has such a small dollar allotment.  Even just the mental exercise, what exactly could you buy with $1.50 to feed yourself for an entire day, is humbling.  For a thought provoking visual of what people eat around the world, check out this Time magazine photo essay.

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