My estranged spouse seems to have found a new groove and is making contact. For the past couple of Fridays, he’s called. I was home and picked up the phone once. Yesterday, he left a message on the machine for the kids, which he followed up with a two sentence email to me. He wants to come by to talk to kid #3 (no mention of #1 or #2) and pick up his mail…would I have objections?
Hmm, where to start?
First, I talked to kid #3 and told her that her father wanted to come by to see her. What did she think about that? “I don’t really want to see him,” she replied. Ok, I respect that.
And his mail? I put it in a shoebox for two months and then started marking it “Return to sender. Not at this address” eight months ago. Eight months, ya’ll. Did he really think I was hanging on to all his mail for the past 10 months? Really?
I shared these two pieces of information with him in a reply to his email. I also let him know that his cell phone number is still posted next to the kitchen phone and that the kids have unrestricted, unsupervised access to the phone. They can contact him anytime they choose.
I’m not sure where he’s heading with this. Maybe it’s his new year’s resolution.