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English: This is an example of the angst cause...

English: This is an example of the angst caused by the use of a telephone. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Earlier this week, my lawyer called me.  She asked, “Do you know what’s going on with Voldemort?”

Ummm, no.

It seems he hasn’t responded to the various petitions we filed last month.  I had to pay some insane amount of legal fees to file for support since his initial divorce petition had “no spousal support” marked.  Then I had to file a petition to get support for kid #2 because of her various physical and emotional issues.  And the kid paperwork was lodged (not filed) so as to protect her privacy.  Which was even more expensive.  (*Note to others:  your divorce legal papers are publically available in California.  Anything filed with the Court can be viewed by anyone, including your adult children.  I don’t know about other states, so check with your lawyer.  Be aware.)

All that paperwork was served on his lawyer, within the legal timeframe, and there’s been no response.

We’re set to go to our first court hearing next week.

Or maybe not?

Two days later, the paralegal called about something else, and I asked if Voldemort’s responses had been received.  She said no, but she would ask the head lawyer if she should call opposing counsel.  For crying out loud, my lawyer has to call his lawyer to find out why they haven’t done their job?  And that’s actually cheaper than showing up in court next week and having his lawyer request another continuance.  This sucks.

This is textbook Voldemort passive-aggressive behavior.  He “forgets,” he obstructs, he “doesn’t know/realize.”  I had to take a breath and remind myself that it’s no longer my job to remind, nag, pester, or cajole him to do what he needs to do.

I just wish I didn’t get billed for every damn phone call prompted by his crap.